Last week [Msg-3-May-2014;
Quantum Physics and My Spirituality] I referred to and quoted from the book Opening The Aloha Mind – Healing Self,
Healing the World with Ho’oponopono, by Jim Nourse, PhD [Balboa Press (Hay
House), 2013]. While looking at a problem of broken axles he asked himself,
“Which was the problem – the situation itself or my appraisal of it?” [p. 13]
His realization is very similar
to what I’m learning in A Course in Miracles (ACIM). I perceive people, things,
and events through a filter of my past interpretations of selective memories. He
also quotes a quip I first heard at Princeton: A person commented to his
therapist, “Life just keeps throwing me one thing after another.” The therapist
replied, “No, your life is throwing you the same thing over and over again.” As
I’ve been trying to recognize my perceptions as non-reality, I’ve discovered an
ocean of guilt/shame inside me – an overflowing reservoir. I realize I’ve been
trying for years, through the Twelve Steps of AA, to find the answer to the
question: “Where did all this stuff come from? What caused my ocean’s
beginning?”
Nourse’s description of how the
Ho’oponopono healing experience operates to cleanse and forgive me (and also change
the world around me!) is very, very similar to the process of forgiveness in
ACIM, and the Course defines forgiveness as our primary function in this world.
In ACIM the forgiveness process
goes like this: I forgive the perceptions/images I've made or projected, and I
forgive the people in these perceptions/images; I forgive myself for projecting
my perceptions/images; I ask the Holy Spirit to help me see another way of
looking at this situation/person – and then I still my mind and listen for the
Holy Spirit's whispers. (Remember:
This last step is not my job. It just happens).
According to Nourse, the
Ho’oponopono process proceeds by addressing our collective “memory,” which is
not the same as our western idea of memory. Memory is not my recollection of my
Dad or Mom or brother “doing something” to me or my recollection of me doing
something “bad.” It is an unformed mass of data from the collective psyche and
the cosmos at large. For example, rather than responding in an unconditional
acceptance of things exactly as they are in the NOW, I perceive a situation as
a problem, or worry, or threat, or fear. That’s a clear sign that I’m operating
from my experience with my ocean of subconscious unformed stuff from the
cosmos. To use Ho’oponopono for cleansing, I must take full responsibility for
the situation. “My taking responsibility does not mean that I take on the blame for or
burden of what happened to you. It means that I accept the fact that the
underlying [unformed stuff in my subconscious] is in the cosmos and, therefore,
also in me.” [p. 66] The cleansing continues in a 3-step process: repentance,
forgiveness, and transmutation. Virtually the same three steps as in ACIM.
Nourse’s description of this
collective, unconscious memory [Chapter Seven] is an absolutely beautiful
description of what I have known as my “ocean of guilt/shame.” It’s the first
time I have seen words like these. What an enormous relief that is for me. [I
have discussed this concept before under the term Race Consciousness (Race as in Human Race). For example, Msg-3-Jan-2013 is about Shared Illusions]. The
psychoanalyst Dr. Carl Jung, who first defined the term Collective Unconscious, was too cerebral for me to internalize when
I studied him in graduate school.
Ho’oponopono doesn’t deal with
the source – the prime cause – of where my guilt/shame comes from. ACIM doesn’t
really dwell on it either. ACIM states that the Holy Spirit will honor an
honest, gut-level willingness to perceive things differently or to see the
world through different, spiritual “eyes.” ACIM describes this as vision rather
than sight.
What I’ve come to understand
while integrating these two very similar messages is that it doesn’t matter
where my ocean of guilt/shame comes from. My earliest memories are not of this
ocean, but early experiences of the ocean’s effect on me. Over and over I
learned – incorrectly – to perceive the results of my ocean as confirmation
that I was defective. I was inadequate. There was something inherently wrong
with me. It wasn’t a conclusion based on things I did differently or
incorrectly – it was that I, personally and wholly, was incomplete and somehow inferior
because of it. That became my constant filter through which I perceived
everything.
Consequently, I wear some pretty
big buttons on my chest. They all say:
“If you want to see a very visceral reaction, just press here.” Some of
these buttons are looks of exasperation at who I am or how I think, non-verbal
communication that I’m merely being tolerated, susceptibility to “should” and
“ought” statements, or envy (as AAers often say: “… wanting to be someone else,
somewhere else, doing something else”). In short, each of these buttons has a
direct connection, or siphon, to my ocean of guilt/shame. Push one of these
buttons and you’ll get a very defensive reaction or justifying discourse from
me – not based in the reality of the present moment – but based on my
perception of the situation as it comes straight from my ocean and tells me
that who I am simply isn’t enough. Since I don’t like to be reminded of that, I
will blame you anyway I can.
What jumped out at me reading
Nourse’s book was I don’t need to figure out where my ocean comes from. That focus
of reflective thought has gotten me nowhere. I simply need to truly trust that
becoming aware and willing will allow the Holy Spirit to begin neutralizing my
ocean and freeing that energy for His use. That will also have a very positive
impact on you, as well.
That is the icing on the cake – as the Holy Spirit cleanses me and
allows me to have a different healthier perception of NOW, it cleanses the
world around me. Each cleansing, multiple times daily, removes psychic “stuff”
that has blocked my inner light, the light of my True Self – an already-loved
eternal spirit currently having a human experience. I am not shining my light brighter
– I am allowing my already-there light to shine more clearly now that some of my
ocean of “stuff” is out of the way.
A Course in Miracles and the indigenous
Hawaiian Ho’oponopono – who woulda thunk it? It’s a positive affirmation for me
that Truth, after all, is Truth. It will set me free.
Although these messages are
mostly for me, thanks for listening. As always – feel free to forward this
message to your friends, family, and those accompanying you on your spiritual
journey.
Don
#4 May, 2014
Copyright, 2014
Thank you. This clarify so much for me.
ReplyDeleteThank you. This clarify so much for me.
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