I
always try to remember the miracle encapsulated in that anonymous saying: “When
you change the way you see things, the things you see change.”
In
last week’s message (Msg-1-Aug-2012:
“Take Care of God’s Will for You for Today and Let God Do His Job of Taking
Care of Everyone Else”) an underlying theme was that I welcome virtually
anything that will take the focus off of me. Unconsciously, I just seem to
gravitate to any and all internal thoughts that will distract me from looking
where I really need to be looking – at me.
There
are two significant reasons I need to keep the focus on me and my thoughts:
1.
Whatever is
causing me an upset is really only my perception of the person, event or
situation at hand. Equally, whatever is causing extreme happiness is my
perception of the situation at hand. I used to get so frustrated in AA when
old-timers would state, “This, too shall pass.” I could fully embrace that
saying when I was relaying bad or unsettling news. I found it infuriating when
they would say that to me when the news was exhilarating or wonderful to me.
2. A Course in Miracles (ACIM) teaches: We are never upset
for the reason we think. This is one of the initial 50 lessons in the Workbook
for Students. It is Lesson Number Five. The first five lessons are: 1. Nothing
I see means anything. 2. I have given what I see all the meaning it has for me.
3. I do not understand anything I see. 4. These thoughts do not mean anything.
5. I am never upset for the reason I think.
In short, according to Watson
and Perry in a Workbook Companion, Volume 1 (Circle Publishing, 2005, pp.
160-161): “In these first five lessons I am asked to let go of: 1. What I see;
2. My judgments; 3. My understanding; 4. My thoughts; 5. My thought system.
“What we ‘see’ in the normal
sense is nothing; we need to realize it is meaningless and let it go, so that
vision may take its place. We are not actually seeing things; rather, we are seeing
our judgments on them. If we want vision, we have to realize our judgments are
invalid, and cease letting them govern our sight…. Our ‘understanding’ of
things is based not on reality, but on our own projections…. Like what we see,
our conscious thoughts are without any real meaning; we need to let them go,
along with judgment-based perceptions…. These thoughts, which are apart from
God, require constant justification, and our upset is no more than an attempt
to justify our anger [or frustration, or righteousness, or other feelings
associated with our ‘memories or thoughts’] with the world and our attacks upon
it.”
So,
by focusing on me, I am focusing on 1) What is my perception? and 2) What is
really going on in my mind /emotions? By focusing on me, I am not
focusing on what the jerk said or did or how the idiot looked. I am not
focusing on how I would feel better inside if only that jackass wouldn’t keep
bringing up these uncomfortable memories.
When
I do this reasonably well, I find myself concluding, “They’re doing exactly
what I’m doing. They’re reacting to their perceptions just as I am. They’re
justifying their anger and frustrations just as I am. They’re looking for
confirmation, vindication, validation, security, peace, freedom, joy, and
acceptance just as I am.”
When
I do this reasonably well my perception of the people, events or situations has
changed. Will it change my perceived world? That’s up to the Holy Spirit, not
me. I know I cannot change people. I can only look at them with love and
acceptance and understanding, which is exactly how I want people to look at me.
This
does not mean I have to approve of their words, actions or behavior, just as it
doesn’t mean I have to fight for the approval of my words, actions or
behavior. I simply need to accept that,
underneath it all, there is not much difference between us.
If
I can get to that spot, I can maintain my peace and serenity in the face of
aggression, anger and fear. That’s exactly where I want to be.
It’s
certainly not easy, but it’s also not very complicated – unless I make it so –
by taking the focus off of me. When that occurs, the result is invariably the
loss of my serenity and peace. That’s the real meaning of the penetrating
question: “Do I want to be happy or right?”
So,
I always try to remember the miracle encapsulated in that anonymous saying: “When
you change the way you see things, the things you see change.” But I also
remember how and when the things may change is up to the Holy Spirit, not me.
Thanks
for listening, and – as always – feel free to forward this message to your
friends, family, and those accompanying you on your spiritual path.
Don
#2
August, 2012
Copyright,
2012
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