This thought, feelings
are not facts, is nothing new. I have, however, come face to face with that
over frustrations from having our house on the market. I get frustrated and so
does my spouse. “Natural enough,” you say. Certainly, but feelings, as opposed
to emotions, are just feelings – unless I want to really pay attention to them.
When I was an elementary school student – maybe
4th or 5th grade – my older brother and I went to see
“The Thing from Another World,” with James Arness (Matt Dillon of ‘Gun Smoke’
fame) in his first role as the “Tbing.” It was scary to us. You have to
remember this was in the early 1950s. As we walked home that evening, it was
dark and the streets of Artesia, NM were dark and deserted. We tried to ignore
our frightened feelings. We walked slowly. Tried to whistle while we walked.
Slowly, however, we moved off the sidewalk and out into the empty streets. Then
our pace began to pick up a little – just a little, then a little more.
Finally, a cat (or something) rattled a trash can, and – boy howdy - we were off like rockets. We raced all the
way home.
Our anxiety over monsters and invisible boogey
men had finally been responded to with our running bodies and suddenly the
feelings we had had become facts. The faster we ran, the scareder we became.
I think each of you can identify with that
phenomenon.
There are helpful emotions we all harbor. These
can all be boiled down to emotions tied to Love or to Fear. Each emotion,
however, is like a diamond having many light-catching facets. Love consists of
the major sub-emotions of Acceptance, Joy, Peace, Compassion, Courageousness,
Serenity, etc. Fear consists of Apathy, Guilt, Anger, Hate, Lust, Envy, Pride,
etc. But each of these sub-emotions consists of a variety of fleeting feelings.
For example, the sub-emotion Acceptance consists
of appreciation, balance, consideration, delight, elation, friendly, gentle,
gracious, mellow, open, playful, tender and understanding. The sub-emotion
Anger consists of being argumentative, defiant, frustrated, harsh, hostile,
impatient, mad, mean, petulant, rude, spiteful, stern, vengeful, and willful.
These feelings are not factual – unless I want
them to be. When I begin to voice these feelings to others and they begin to
join in the conversation with me, slowly these fleeting feelings become facts.
I cannot (nor do I want to) control my major
emotions. Nor can I control having fleeting feelings. I can, however, control
the transition from feelings-as-non-facts to feelings-as-facts. I can do that
by acknowledging to myself that I am feeling thus and thus and reassuring
myself that these are instant, fleeting egoic feelings. I do not suppress them,
nor do I give voice to them. When I give these feelings voice, I give them a
certain kind of reality. Slowly I begin down a very slippery emotional slope –
just like my brother and I did when we began picking up our pace until we were
running headlong out of sheer terror.
When I control this transition from
feelings-as-non-facts to feelings-as-facts, I am reminding myself that I am not
a body nor am I what I think. I am an already-loved eternal spirit (my True
Self) simply having a human experience. I am cared for. I am loved. I am whole.
I am Light. I am at one with all other living creatures. I am at peace.
As I’ve stated before, “I have to understand,
on a visceral level, who the “Me” or “I” really is when I am speaking or
thinking. The “I” that says to myself, “I really need a newer, more reliable
car” is a different “I” than the one that says to my Holy Spirit, “I can’t do
this anymore; help me perceive things the way You see them.”
Although
these messages are mostly for me, thanks for listening to me and getting to
know me – warts and all. As always, feel free to forward this message to your
friends, family, and those accompanying you on your spiritual journey.
Don
#4 Jul 2016
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