Comments I received over the
past several weeks indicate the difficulty many of you have in accepting that
the world we see reflects only our perceptions of ourselves – and the fact that
to change our perception of ourselves, we must first change our perception of
the what we think we are seeing “out there.”
This is not a new idea – but we
are not used to hearing it put quite in this way.
Consider this brief quote from
the Jewish Talmud: “We do not see things as they are; we see things as we are.”
Or this anonymous quote: “To see beauty in the world, look for beauty; to see
ugliness, look for ugliness.”
If you feel irritable, for
example, you’ll look and you’ll find ugliness in the world; if you feel content
and harmonious with yourself, you’ll look and you will see harmony and beauty
all around you; if you feel fearful, angry and apprehensive, you’ll look for
the results of fear and anger and you’ll find it; if you feel at peace, you’ll
look for the results of peace and serenity and you’ll find it.
A Course in Miracles (ACIM)
states that we are to bless what we think we see. Old-timers in AA state that I
am to pray for happiness and joy for those who vex me. If I am at peace I’ll
look for peace and I’ll find others who are at peace or I’ll see those who are
trying to control their world to achieve peace – and I will have compassion for
them because I see that, as well, in myself.
In short: what I look for determines what I see; who I am
determines what I look for.
I think this is the meaning
behind Jesus’ statements that said: Those with ears, let them hear; those with
eyes, let them see. From Mark 4: 10-12 (see also Matthew 13:10-15): [Jesus]
replied [to the Twelve] “…To you the secret of the kingdom of God has been
given; but to those who are outside everything comes by way of parables, so
that (as Scripture says [Isaiah]) they may look and look, but see nothing; they
may hear and hear, but understand nothing….” From Matthew 13: 16-17: “Happy are
your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear! Many prophets and
saints, I tell you, desired to see what you now see, yet never saw it; to hear
what you hear, yet never heard it.” From Mark 8:17-18: “Have you [disciples] no
inkling yet? Do you still not understand? Are your minds closed? You have eyes:
can you not see? You have ears: can you not hear?”
Jesus is not talking about the
Twelve physically seeing and hearing Him where prophets and saints haven’t. He
is talking about ACIM’s sense of Spiritual Vision as opposed to physical sight:
Lesson 39 in ACIM’s Workbook for Students asks us to “… search out your unloving thoughts in whatever form they appear;
uneasiness, depression, anger, worry, attack, insecurity and so on. Whatever
form they take, they are unloving and therefore fearful. And so it is from them
that you need to be saved…. It is imperative for your salvation that you
see them differently. And it is your
blessing on them that will save you
and give you vision.” [W1, 39;
6:2-4; 7:2-3]
I do not change my sight into
vision as an act of my willpower. I begin changing how I think by blessing (and
really meaning it!) rather than condemning, judging, or criticizing others – in
short, not looking for the ugly. By doing this I will begin (with the guidance
and help of the Holy Spirit) to see the world differently, then think
differently, and then begin seeing myself differently. All this will “…save me
and give me vision.” I’m not blessing
folks because I’m doing them some kind of spiritual favor. I’m blessing them
because that’s how I get better and – at the same time – how the Holy Spirit
makes them better and makes our interactions holy.
Let me give you a few examples
of how I have learned that this is true – at least for me. As mentioned
earlier, in AA I learned that to eliminate a resentment that I am holding
against others all I need to do is to pray for their happiness, joy and
contentment. I had a departmental boss that treated all of us as simple
resources to use up and throw away. He believed that was the way to get ahead
in our corporation. I was number two in our department. It drove me nuts to listen
to him rant and rave (and curse!) the staff and me. I was getting sober and
beginning to enjoy some serenity in my life. I was told to pray for his
happiness. I didn’t want to. “Then enjoy your unhappiness,” my sponsor would
say. Finally, I prayed for this boss of mine. I can still remember my first
prayer: “God, I hope you make the SOB happy and give him joy.” That’s the best
I could do. I continued to pray for him every night for a month. My prayers
slowly softened and by the end of the month I was no longer angry. I was
saddened by his behavior – but my anger at him no longer controlled me. He,
too, seemed to soften during that month. A miracle? Really?
There were some folks in my AA
meetings that would drive me up a wall. My sponsor would tell me that there is
a truth about him/her that is in me and that I am hiding from myself. “You mean
to tell me that that bastard is simply reminding me of me?” “Yep,” he’d reply.
God, I hated hearing that! But it always turned out to be the case. Perhaps there
was something about them I admired, but was afraid to do or say. Perhaps there
were emotions I had worked hard to hide and control, but they simply laid them out
there. I was embarrassed to find myself acknowledging those feelings or angry
that they seemed to suffer no consequences, as I had expected I would, when
they openly exposed their feelings.
What I look for determines what
I see, which determines who I am, which determines what I look for.
I hope this helps.
Although these messages are
mostly for me, thanks for listening. As always – feel free to forward this
message to your friends, family, and those accompanying you on your spiritual
journey.
Don
#3 February 2015
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